Note: This article is the first episode of a three-episode series on ‘Anger’, and defines the ‘Anger’ and the need of ‘Anger Management’.
What is Anger?
Remember that fleeting annoyance? that damn-pushing rage felt on anything, anyone? If yes, then you most likely are well acquainted with this evil thing named Anger.
Don’t you think that by calling it evil, I mean it is a bad thing; Anger is basically a sign of a lively and healthy life, it also reflects that your brain is quite capable to observe and react. This completely normal emotion drives you to take steps in a certain direction.
You must have experienced the wish to do what someone did so well. When you aim to make progress after watching someone doing it, you think you are following that person because you are impressed with him or her; wrong! You want to do that because you are angry in your heart, you want to surpass them and this is a derivative of the emotion called anger.
Does Anger affect me?
So if it drives you to achieve better results, why is it considered bad?
Well, it is not bad as long as it is hidden and under your control, things get really ugly when it starts controlling you. You start getting angry on very small matters and it affects your work, your life, and your relations and ruins everything, which comes in the way. The worst thing with getting angry is that you are in an unpredictable state and are shaking like a boat in a drowning sea.
Every emotion has its very own psychological and physical effects and anger is no exception. When you get angry, expect you heart rate and Blood pressure to skyrocket, while it shakes up and down many of your hormones. You also get prone to the attack of tension and depression, which could take out your sleep so easily, not to mention the severe headache caused by the intense anger.
Your social life is the most affected victim of anger, remember, you are potentially risking your relations and connections by not managing your anger.
So what causes the Anger?
Emotions need an event to start flowing and so does anger; this event could be anything ranging from an accidental push, a mistake, a traffic jam, delay in meeting, some colleague, your very personal problem, or a sudden attack of a bitter past memory. Sometimes you feel angry and you just do not understand the reason, in this scenario your mental turmoil, could cause this feeling to go up.
And yeah you can also blame your forefathers for your anger because a scientific study revealed that if you often get angry then you might have grabbed it from your parents or grandparents.
Expression of Anger
As I mentioned earlier, that anger is good for you if under your control; but once it starts controlling you the things start getting really ugly. You cannot deny that you have no authority to tear down every person or thing that stirs anger in you; you ultimately have to consider the law and social ties before taking any action, but anger is the catalyst, which forbids you to think before doing. If you find yourself repenting what you did in anger, then believe me you are in dire need to consider Anger Management.
Anger Management
What is the anger Management? To understand this you should understand the fact that Anger is not bad and you cannot stop getting irritated from the people or things. Remember you will keep getting angry but you must manage your anger in the best possible way.
You need Anger management because it is the only way to reduce the turmoil caused to your feelings and body by anger. The goal of anger management is not to eliminate the anger because you simply cannot; the aim is to control your reactions.
Some self-proclaimed experts also suggest that you should not control your anger and let it loose, but doing so only complicates things and does no good to you or to the person/object, you charge at but yeah it does help to worsen your social life.
Anger tests
Often angry people know about their anger but if by any chance, you are unaware of this sweet habit of yours and you find yourself reacting to certain people or events in an odd fashion, then you might need these psychological tests to understand the intensity of your anger. I plan to write about these tests in a separate post, so I leave it for later.
I would love to hear your thoughts about anger, just throw your comments in and don’t forget to share this with your friends [specially the angry ones ;)].
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